10 Signs She’s A Lady And Not Just A Girl

Becoming a lady as it is.

James Michael Sama

If this is your first time being exposed to my writing, I feel the need to preface this article by saying that probably 80-90% of my blog posts are focused on men and how we, as a gender, can be/do/act better in life and in love. So, save the ‘sexist’ or ‘woman-bashing’ comments please – that is the polar opposite of what JamesMSama.com is about.

Since, though, there has been such a frequency of those types of articles lately, I wanted to turn the tables a bit and discuss the woman of today. The woman who wants the gentleman. The woman who wants to be shown by the right man that we are not all the same. The woman who wants to hold herself to higher standards and be an equal teammate to the man in her life.


Just like there are standards of conduct to be met in order…

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50 Truths To Keep In Mind With The New Year

Thought Catalog


1. Go sit on a train, a bus, in a park or somewhere like that for an hour or two. I promise that you will see at least one thing that makes you see the good in the world and in people again.

2. It’s always better to be the one who smiled than the one who didn’t smile back.

3. At the end of the day, your mom will always be the only person you can really depend on.

4. It’s okay to fight for someone, but it’s not okay to compete for them. Understand that, and you’ll be saved a lot of unnecessary time.

5. Timing really can be everything.

6. Good things do happen when you least expect it.

7. When someone leaves your life, I promise, most of the time it’s the universe doing you a favor. If they’re supposed to be in your life…

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40 Quotes About Beauty That Will Help You See Yourself Differently

Thought Catalog

8405947770_8661e09f05_hLeanne Surfleet

Once upon a time, not so long ago, beauty was the greatest accomplishment – the only accomplishment! – for women. Their survival was dependent on being passed from their fathers to their husbands for income, for shelter, for life. In 1974, women still needed a husband’s signature to open a credit line, so may we be conscious of the fact that these are not ancient, archaic issues, realities of far-gone, lesser times.

Being objectively beautiful, better than other women, is something that’s so deeply ingrained in our psyches, and it’s only now being rendered obsolete as we (thankfully) change the way we determine “worth.”

The need to be beautiful, the obsession, the compulsion, the overwhelming desire, is rooted in survival, laced with instinct, compounded by consumerism, and associated most with the cosmetics counter.

And so there is a tension, and a disconnect, for the great truth we are subsequently neglecting. So long as we cultivate how we appear, how consumable we are…

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