Addiction? Broken heart? Endless dilemmas?
It all lies in our mega mind. Everything is in the mind. Everything that happened, is happening and will happen to us depends on our mind, I really do believe in that. That everything happens is a result and consequences of our past actions and all of it is product of how we see and understand things.
Also there came different outcomes because every person is unique. We might have think that our situation is alike to our friend or friends of friend, that we should have done what they’ve done but that was a misconception. Bigger part of it lies on the person deciding for it. If the person would want it, there will always be ways and if not there will be tons of reasons just to hinder from it.